I provide consultant services for parents.
Consultations in the privacy of your home or your office may be an option.
My services will benefit the following groups:
- First time parents:
Most people making the transition to parenthood are taken aback by the change in their life. The simplest decision involves the baby. Your role in life is forever transformed, whether you are a single parent, an adoptive parent or a parent from the lesbian and gay community.
Why not take a little time to invest and do what you can to prepare yourself for this extremely important new role in your life? What does being a parent mean to you? What do you want to emphasize as a parent? What do you want to avoid? How can you also take care of yourself as you continue to develop? And how can you cope with what so many parents of young children have to deal with, and that is balancing work and family life. Let me help you sort out these and other concerns that are unique to your household.
- Adoptive Parents:
Before you adopt there may be months of planning and anticipation. How you came to make the decision to adopt is an aspect unique to you and your household. And like most parents, you have your hopes and dreams of what you want to teach your child and how you want to raise them. For the adoptive parent, there are experiences and decisions solely found within the domain of adoptive parenthood. Terms such as open or closed adoption, birth mother, biological father, etc. become part of the parents’ vocabulary. In addition, if the child is adopted as an infant, the parents may be thinking ahead to when they want to have a talk with their child about adoption. These and other questions and concerns may not be settled immediately but some may be addressed now. My experience with evaluating individuals for adoption and working with children who were adopted and their parents prepare me to address many issues you may be wondering about.
- Single Parents:
In today’s world, single parenthood may result from a unilateral decision to have a child, or it may also come as a result of a separation or divorce. Regardless of the circumstances, support systems are most helpful; it can be the non-custodial parent, a relative, best friend(s) or another person you feel you can trust. Work/family balance may be more challenging for the single parent. One’s social life and dating and the child’s relationship with the non-custodial parent may also be an issue to work out. As in all forms of parenthood, circumstances are unique. It is my wish to help the single parent navigate the world of parenthood and feel confident in doing so.
- Parents from the Lesbian-Gay Community:
Laws have changed re: marriage and its rights and benefits. Same-sex parenthood is no longer an exception (to the extent that a same-sex couple may be are asked if they plan to have or have children in the same manner as is asked of heterosexual couples). Adoption issues are similar as with adoptive parents. Questions about same gender parents may surface in a school environment with questions from other adults or children. Research shows that the healthy development of children depends on the health of the family and those caring for them and not on the structure of that family. Consulting with someone who has worked with parents from the Gay and Lesbian community is helpful.
Just about everyone is aware of someone who is responsible for raising their grandchild or grandchildren. The grands are not just visiting their grandparents; they live there, day in and day out. Reasons for such an arrangement vary but what remains constant is your invariable role of surrogate parent and all that is entailed in raising a child. The grandparent becomes a parent again and often wonders “can I do things the same way? What do I have to change? For the grandparent, age is a factor. Grandparents are older than individuals who are in the traditional childrearing age. The health of the grandparent may be another factor. And the grandparent may still be in the workforce. Lastly, there may be other concerns that are unique to the situation and effect the grandparent role. Over the years I have worked with children, adolescents and adults. The adults ranged in age from young adulthood, to those in their senior years. If you are a grandparent raising your grandchild or grandchildren, I am prepared to work with you as you strive to fulfill (at this time in your life) the critical role of custodial grandparent.
Again, please note that my parenting consultant practice is not therapy. If I recognize that you could benefit from other services that are beyond my parenting consultant practice, I will discuss the issue with you and do what I can to find someone who can assist you.